Topic: ICSI hope or $ for FS?
My partner had lymphoma as a child and we have been together 3 years.
Since we met we have discussed having children together knowing we would probably need to seek donor sperm. Our GP referred us to a fertility specialist assuming a sperm test would make us eligable for a donor.
We saw the fertility specialist at the beginning of this year for a sperm sample result. The only option was ICSI due to very poor sperm count. We were pleasantly surprised by this as tests my partner has had over the years suggested ther was no hope of conceiving. FS sent us away with a request form for another sample mid year (we are saving up for IVF). We had the test done mid year, the results went to the FS and we heard nothing. I had an appointment a few weeks ago ready to start IVF in January and the FS told me my partners sperm was 10 times 'poorer' than the sample at the beginning of the year. He said there were very few viable sperm. We are puzzled why we were not contacted in August after this poor result.
I'm worried we are being 'sucked in' to paying for IVF (more specifically ICSI) as I have recently had my coordinator appointment and been given the price list
We are more than happy to use a donor is it means we get the baby we have been wanting for 3 years. We are aware of the issues around donor conception (most importantly for the child) and are prepared to go down this path.
Are we stewing over nothing or should we speak to someone about it?